8 Steps For Moving Past Childhood Emotional Wounds as An Adult
Not everyone associates their childhood with fun and playfulness; some experience trauma, emotional pain, neglect that's left their inner child feeling vulnerable, insecure, and hurt.
Even though it feels as if the emotional wounds from your childhood continue to haunt you through adolescence or adulthood, it isn't impossible to heal from them.
Here are 8 steps that can help you get over the past by addressing these traumatic incidences:
1. Acknowledgment for your inner child:
To begin the healing process, you must acknowledge your inner child's presence by identifying and accepting the things that caused you pain in your childhood. To do so, you must revisit the past and thoroughly explore the relationship, as if you were on a mission of self-discovery. Bring the hurt to the light to help yourself better understand its impact.
2. Sit your inner child down and listen to what it has to say
After the acknowledgment comes listening, which isn't easy. You'll encounter several feelings (anxiety, vulnerability, insecurity, rejection or abandonment, anger, and guilt or shame) all at once. It’s essential to trace these feelings back to specific childhood events to avoid similar responses in situations that trigger you in adulthood.
3. Write a letter
Write a letter from your adult self to your inner child and explain all the distressful circumstances you failed to understand back then. This is your chance to offer reassurance and comfort.
4. The answer lies within
If you wish to get an answer to all those questions you've asked your inner child, start meditating. Meditation helps you become more self-aware. Through acknowledgment and addressing, you're sure to find healthier ways to express your emotions.
5. Journal as though you were writing as a child
Journaling is a great coping strategy as it helps you recognize the unhelpful patterns that began in your childhood.
6. Rewind to the joys of childhood
If you missed out on several things as a child, now's your chance to enjoy the simplest of pleasures life has to offer. Get back in touch with your playful side and make time for fun.
7. Leave the door open
Even when the healing journey has a solid start, it certainly has no actual end. It would help if you stayed in contact with your inner child at all stages in life to get a complete sense of self.
8. Talk to your therapist.
If you haven't found the answer yet, look for a therapist specializing in inner child therapy or inner child work. They tend to create a safe haven to help you unwind from this emotional tumult.
Remember, hiding pain doesn't heal it. And it's okay to be afraid; after all, bravery is about being terror-stricken but doing it anyway. Master one step at a time; you'll get there at your own pace.
Book author Stephanie Hart pens down her memoir in her latest book Mirror Mirror: A Collection of Memoirs and Short Stories. She talks about her bittersweet memories with her parents and the psychological process she had to undergo to overcome a painful childhood. The book is now available in stores on Barnes & Noble and online on Amazon; get yours today!