Are You A Good Parent To Your Child?
Parents are usually the child’s first teachers in life. A child’s understanding of goals, attitudes, perspectives, and views depends mainly on their caregivers. As you grow older, consciously or subconsciously your demeanor reflects how you’ve been treated as a child. This is what makes good parenting so crucial.
Bad parenting is damaging for the child and may leave a lasting impression on their perception of life. These signs come in handy for determining whether or not someone is a bad parent based on their personality traits:
When a parent promotes partiality in the house by making it evident that they prefer one child over the other, the latter becomes prone to depression. Being introduced to bias systems in terms of education, necessities, and social opportunities is damaging for all siblings.
2. Neglecting the child
Neglecting a child physically or emotionally is just as harmful, if not more so than physical abuse. It adversely impacts the child’s motor development, functionality, cognition, behavior, emotions, and language development. In the long run, neglect can lead to more severe consequences such as social withdrawal, low self-esteem, trouble regulating emotions, and poor impulse control.
3. Excessive interference or pampering
This category is the opposite of neglect; too much involvement or pampering by a parent can spoil the child by making them too dependent or demanding. Too much interference in everyday activities can cause the child to become incompetent, anxious, and incapable of effective decision making.
4. Physical and verbal abuse
Brutally exposing a child to physical or verbal violence can cause the child to develop an inferiority complex and other lifelong physical, psychological, and behavioral problems. Abused children tend to become hostile, apathetic, and are at a greater risk of developing anxiety, depression, chemical dependency; crime, doing self-harm, and engaging in other high risk behaviors.
5. Oppressive behavior
Parents might impose overbearing authoritarianism onto their children without taking into account the child’s intelligence level, interests, or capabilities. These parents use punishments to enforce good behavior, but unfortunately, these oppressive tactics tend to be highly toxic for kids.
6. Being unable to trust the child
If a parent believesothers over their child, children are likely to turn more rebellious. It’s essential to allow your child to explain something before forming an opinion that may further demotivate the child.
Can good kids survive the effects of bad parenting?
The effects of bad parenting tend to run deep, affecting the children's lives in the long run.
Growing up with bad parents and overcoming the trauma is both challenging and painful. Author Stephanie Hart writes in her famous book of short memoirs, Mirror Mirror: A Collection of Memoirs and Stories, how challenging she found the mother-daughter relationship she shared with her mom. The book is now available for purchase on Amazon and Amazon Kindle and Barnes and Nobel on line.